Hard to have sex!

I had my daughter 16 months ago by c-section, and I’m so not sure why I can’t have sex!

It took me a long time for me to want sex, like just a month ago, got the urge. But when me and my SO try it hurts so bad, he can’t go all the way in without me wincing in pain.

I talked to my health clinic doctor when I got my paraguard (before I lost my Medicaid), & she said to try and just relax and get out of my own head space. But easier said than done, lady. I asked about me getting on some lubricant since I can’t get super wet and she said I don’t need it since it’s not medically necessary & because I’m not old enough for it, I’m 28...

I need help because I want to be able to please my man & he really prefers my vag vs my mouth or anything else.

Any recommendations will help!