Worried my mom will become controlling...

To begin, me and my mother have not been near as close as she would like us to be. Mainly because when she speaks to me, she makes me feel like I am not the perfect daughter she wants me to be like my sister. Even though they have more arguments, she is the daughter she wants. Outgoing, book smart and they have the same taste in fashion.

Now, I am 34w4d with her first grandchild. She has been trying so hard to do more with me, but every time it turns into her criticizing the way I do things. I have tried to make it clear to her that I want things to go a certain way during delivery. She got extremely upset when I told her that I just want me and my boyfriend in the delivery room. She always brings it up around everyone who had a child to, what I believe, make me feel guilty enough to change my mind. It has worked because I am probably going to allow her in the delivery room with us.

However, every little thing I do that involves me, my boyfriend or our baby she has to criticize.

I bought a new mattress set, and she called just to complain about how much I spent on the bed. Even though it's my money and I had been preparing to buy a new mattress for months.

I want to basically leave work now so I can relax and prepare my home more for when the baby comes, and she has told me to keep working because she is worried about my finances.

I have also told her that she will not be coming up to my house every day after the baby is born because it is unnecessary. She started crying and guilt tripping me over that. Saying that it isn't right that she is only allowed to see my child when I decide it is ok. Which I found to be the dumbest statement ever, because the only people allowed to see our child are those we allow to see him.

All of this just from me being pregnant, along with constant unsolicited advice that I have been clear not to give because it's all basically a matter of opinion, has got me worried that my mother is going to try and be controlling after the birth. I only get so much time off work to spend and bond with my baby. Then when me and his father are working, her and my dad will be the primary baby sitters. That's also got me worried, along with my boyfriend which is a story for another time, that since he will be spending so much time with them, that my parents will just spoil him instead of sticking to the way I want to raise my son.

I'm probably over thinking, but I just think it's weird that just because I am having a child, several family members have attempted to be closer. Another thing is my sister is getting married this coming up weekend. We have family coming in from out of town and I am absolutely dreading every single person touching/kissing my belly. I am fine if it is once but I don't enjoy having anyone's face buried in my belly.