Baby #2 - so behind!

I keep seeing all the posts about being ready for baby. So I'm getting antsy.

I have to pick up pack n play from in laws (we gave after #1 went into crib so they'd have a bed, they never used it), and clean it, set it up and the side baskets. I need all the things that go into side baskets (diapers!)

I made a list of 10 items we need for baby/toddler, and went to husband "it'll cost xyz, good to order?". And he responded how about in November! WTF the baby is due Nov 20th and she is the second, she could be early. I'm not exactly a model of fitness this pregnancy, Im literally losing all steam already and have a toddler running crazy. When am I setting things up? We negotiated in 2 more weeks to go on next statement because we had a lot of bills this month but, ugh, men! I don't understand why I had to explain why buying (not including waiting for shipping) 3 weeks before due date is bad, to a second time father?!

I have to pull out all the NB/0-3m clothes and rewash (although I washed before storage it's still icky for me not to)

I still haven't ordered my pump, but I'm calling this afternoon to have the office fax the script.

I mean there's obviously no hospital bag ready.

I'm going crazy today. Breath! I try to remind myself we still have enough to get by with a newborn if it happens tomorrow: a crib, some new clothes i already washed, and a boob... the hospital diapers.... and all the medical stuff we keep in stock from #1. But omg, my head is ready to pop.

Anyone else in panic mode?