So I’m 23, with endometriosis, and married for four years. My hub and I decided to have kids before we were married.

I was told my doc it is time to start trying because of my Endo.

I come home and tell my hub and he says no. We have talked off and on about it for a year or two but he hasn’t been ready yet.

So I ask him why just so I can understand. His response, “well.... I don’t know.”

You don’t have a reason?

No.

I find that hard to believe because something has been holding you back this whole time. We have talked about wanting a big family and if we don’t try now we may never have children of our own.

His response.... “well, you just... you don’t fit my idea of what a mother should be.”

What does that mean?

“Well, it means that you aren’t the most patient, kind person.”

Where is this coming from?

“Well, when I leave stuff out, you always get really upset with me and you don’t have the best cleaning habits yet.”

Well, I shouldn’t have to clean up after you and the house might actually stay clean if you did.

“If you can’t clean up after me, how will you clean up after a child?”

Excuse me....I am not YOUR mother. I would be the child’s mother. I am happy to clean up after my child. Would you like to be my child or my husband?

“It’s a wife’s job to do those things and until you learn how to, we can’t have a baby. End of discussion.”

What in the freaking heck? I’m sorry I don’t want to clean up after you because you don’t have the ability to put ANYTHING away after you use it. I’m happy to deep clean and do chores, but he should have to clean up after himself. I don’t expect him to clean up after me. So now I have to be a perfect housewife or I can’t have children....

am I wrong to be incredibly offended by this?

UPDATE: Ladies, I have thought about it long and hard and really don’t see a point in staying with someone who is sooo backwards. I am done with this relationship.

Update: just thought I’d add... GUESS WHOS BEEN CHATTING IT UP WITH HIS COWORKER?!? That’s right, my soon to be ex. I did not leave him just because of his backwards view, but also because I have felt for awhile that he has been hiding something. It’s heartbreaking to go from what we once were to this, but he made his choice. I did not realize he was such a dirty talker till I read the texts between them. Pathetic.

NEVER stay married to someone who makes you beg to be a priority. I hope that PYT enjoys being his mother while I find myself a man!!