Spotting...all the time

I spot after sex for couple days. I spot after a BM for a couple days. Sometimes it’s light and a panty liner will do. Sometimes it’s heavier the first day and then really light after. I’m not close to my normal cycle days either Anyone else have this and what could be causing it? I’m getting concerned. I’ve talked to my doctor already and I feel she isn’t listening and just throws birth control at me. I feel this is more than what birth control can fix. (Mainly because it didn’t fix it entirely when I’ve tried them)