Am I the only tired, not in the mood, feeling like an old hag of a wife who hasn’t had sex yet!? 🤦🏼‍♀️

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I mean do i like sex? Yes but do I want it 2/3 months postpartum ? Not really . I love my husband and all but I am never ever in the mood. Like it doesn’t even cross my mind. I feel bad for him but I also feel bad for my sleepless self. For me SLEEP over everything. Sorry not so sorry?

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Same! I could really care less about having sex right now. I feel so bad for my husband and he’s being so sweet and patient but I can tell it’s wearing thing. 
Main thing, I don’t want to get pregnant again so soon and I haven’t gotten my BC yet.  
But I’m just gross too and tired, I don’t have time for makeup anymore- or a shower, my hairs a mess, and I’m in pjs all day cause what’s the point of getting dressed when I have to feed baby in an hr anyway.

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same, i just have zero sex drive. we’ve had sex 3 or 4 times, having to use lube and condoms (which are such mood-killers!)
i’m only going along with it because i feel so bad and don’t want my other half to think i have a problem with him or anything! and i feel so guilty because he makes all the effort to make sure i get a good seeing to (😂), which does help, but i’m just so not in the mood beforehand.
i’m just so tired, all i want to do when baby goes to sleep for the night is to go to bed too!

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You get to choose when it’s right for you. Sometimes I find myself doing it just to please him but I knew if I continued that route I’d end up resenting him. One of my best friends noted that if your EBF then your hormones kind of shift and your sex drive kind of becomes nonexistent. Mostly because now your body is focused on creating nourishment for your little one. In doing so your baby eats 25% of your energy. Sometimes I swear it’s 50%. 
For me personally, it’s taking while for the whole act to feel like it did. Have lots of lube on hand (or coconut oil) and most of all be good to yourself.

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We’re having this same issue right now only problem my husband is being super needy about it and I’m getting frustrated but so is he. After two kids I feel disgusting, I’m exhausted and I only get to shower once a week which doesn’t really put me in the mood. We’re trying to compromise 🤷🏻‍♀️

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We’ve done it like one a week and it’s pretty much torture 😂

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I got up the courage to have sex 2 weeks for the first time and was so disappointed with how my vagina felt I'm not eager to do it again....

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This is the same thing that’s going on with me! I have zero sex drive and I’m tired. My 3 month old son breastfeeds all night and during the day obviously lol but I also take care of my other son who’s going to be 2 in December so when my boys go to sleep the only thing I want to do is sleep. I feel so bad for my fiancé but I have no idea what to do. I might be calling my doctor today to see what I can do or if there’s anything I can take while breastfeeding

Am I the only tired, not in the mood, feeling like an old hag of a wife who hasn’t had sex yet!? 🤦🏼‍♀️

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