***Little bit about ourselves***My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. He’s almost 35 and I’m 30. I’m a groomer at a vet hospital and he’s a police officer for the past 4 years. (I know, our careers are totally different and just opposite 😂😂) I used to be married and I have a 6 year old son that I split time with my ex husband. My bf has never been married and he doesn’t have any kids. But he treats my son as his own. I will say we have a good loving relationship and our doing good for ourselves.

Well his brother (they are twins but not identical) I swear is the most toxic person on the planet right now in our lives!! He’s constantly in and out of jail, and on probation (he’s actually in jail now, just recently went back) probably 2 DUIs so far, has 4 kids he doesn’t take care of or never sees, no car, no job, stalks women (recently one lady tried to press charges against him for stalking) lives at their moms house and mooches off her. Talks shit to their mom and yells at her and cusses her out. Texts my bf at 230 am and calls him while we’re trying to sleep. I mean the list goes on and on.

Recently I tried helping him by giving him one of my old iPhones bc he didn’t have a phone at all. (He’s always breaking them). I told him I would take $60 ($900 phone btw) but the screen was cracked and needed to be replaced. He gave me the $60 and I told him I would give him the phone the following week. Mind you he lives at their moms which is like 30 mins away from us without traffic. So I’m having to find time out of my busy schedule to give it to him since he has no car. When I told him the screen is cracked and needed to be fixed before he can use it, I told him I would take it somewhere to get it replaced and reset the whole phone. I told him it was another $60. He wanted ME to pay for it out of my pocket. I told him no, I said I would get the screen replaced and show him the receipt of how much it was and he can give me the money for it or no phone. Nope he didn’t want to do that either. Instead he went online and bought a used phone off someone selling it off Facebook for $150. Almost the same amount he would have paid me all together.

A week later, I still haven’t gave him the phone, bc he didn’t want to get the screen replaced and wanted me to pay for it. He messages me and tells me he wants the $60 back. Mind you, he owes my bf (his brother) probably over $1000. Technically he owes me money bc when I shared a phone plan with my bf, his brother was on the plan too and he wasn’t paying a dime and I was paying for half the plan(which was his line and phone payment included as well). Well he cussed me out saying I can’t just keep his money, basically calling me sorry and I’m a POS 😂😂. Told my bf to break up with me(which he’s done our whole entire relationship but will try to flirt with me behind my bfs back) I finally gave him a piece of my mind and told him how he was and how much of a low life he is. And I told him he owes my bf money so that $60 can goes towards his “tab”. He literally had the nerve to tell me “you’re not family. Me and my brother help each other out” 😂😂😂. this kid has NEVER helped any one out except himself. I’ve told my bf that I have no idea in the slightest why he still has contact with his bother. I know they are family but holy shit. Some has to give. I can’t even go out with my bf to dinner when we invite his mom bc his brother is always around. He’s done nothing but stirred up drama in our relationship since day one and is just a sorry sack of shit in my eyes especially after he treats everyone who’s just trying to help him like crap. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Am I wrong for asking my bf why the fuck he still has contact with brother? I try to ignore this kind of stuff and just let it roll off my back but I don’t want to upset my bf bc I talk about his bother(which he always agrees I’m right anyways) I just don’t know if that makes me a shitty person for not liking him and judging him..

I just wanted to say thank you to the few ladies that took the time to read this and give me your opinions. Yes I have cut him off and haven’t spoke to him since especially after he had the nerve to tell me “I wasn’t family” which technically he’s right, but I feel like I’m more of a family to my bf than his is. I did cut him off 4 years ago the first time he wanted to start drama in my relationship. But I decided to be a good person and give him a second chance. Bad decision on my part bc look where it got me. Trying to help him out and it back fired. No I haven’t actually told my bf to cut contact with his brother. I basically told him I don’t know why he has anything to do with him still after all he’s done but I could understand why bc he’s family. It’s not that we argue about it but when he tells me his brother fucked up AGAIN, that’s usually my response. My bf is a very nice person, whether it’s with his career and his family and friends. He’s the type to keep giving people chances over and over but he doesn’t realize that it’s toxic for his life, our life and not only stresses him out but me as well. I’ll just have to sit down and talk to him about this and hopefully get it resolved. Once again, thanks ladies!!