Boyfriend Problems

Ive known for awhile but seems like ..Ive been here before with pass guys well my boyfriend of 3 yrs we went to couples retreat and during one of the lessons they had it was to open up to your partner and tell them some things you never told them before well I confessed to him i was inlove with him like this is the person i wanna spend forever with but it hurts cause he not there yet he loves me and thinks i have good qualities to be a wife one day but he not inlove with me yet he been inlove 3times in pass so like where am i going wrong here i even brought up counseling am i wrong ?