How do you do it STAHMs?!??

Question

I’ve been a stay at home mom since my daughter was born.. she’s 18 months now. I went back to work over the summer for a couple of months and really enjoyed it but wasn’t happy with my job. I’m now a college student, working on starting my own business, and a stay at home mom. I have no friends (trust me, I’ve tried..), my husband is at work all the time (so grateful for him) but I can’t help but feel depressed all the time? How do you balance your mental health while being a stay at home mom? How do you keep motivated to do house chores and be the best you can be? I feel that I’m really slacking lately and just lazy.. I have no energy.

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I make myself get dressed everyday.... in real clothes and not pjs. Sounds dumb but it was a game changer for me. I make a list of chores. Every weekday has a specific task (sheets, vacuum stairs, car...) and then I write down a few other things. I make plans for my week and try to spread our activities out over the days. I am motivated by checking things off a list so this works for me.

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I was depressed for 2 years didnt tell a soul i wanted to kill myself every other weekend literally tried twice........ i started to do zumba every day it was a life saver i dont cry anymore i spoked to my husband about it and im good now no meds no doctors only exercise... i poor my heart every time i dance even though i take my girls ( 4 and 2) and my coach helped me too talk to
Someone before it gets worse

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I go to stuff every day and have a routine. Where I live there’s always a baby group on somewhere, singing and rhymes, baby sensory, messy play, then afternoon is home and nap time for a couple of hours 1pm-3pm so I do something nice like read a book or sleep myself.  Then make dinner, bath time then baby in bed at 7.  It’s harder if you live somewhere with nothing going on.

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I have a Savor Life Planner that is really awesome and helps you balance yourself a bit while setting up a day for success. On days I'm motivated I'll plan a simple outing like a barnes and noble and starbucks trip, a quick bite and a couple errands, or even a new park a little further away than usual.  The social part is tough. I really only have 1 friend where my husband is currently stationed as a recruiter and then my male cousin so I make a point to see them regularly, as well as my in laws even though they arent my favorite...it still adult interaction. Try to make friends with neighbors, I have met a few older people in my neighborhood that just love to coo over my daughter and I bring them things like cookies and fudge time to time. Also I visit my mother a couple time a month. Not going to lie it does get lonely but I also will try to do things like plant herbs, crochet, read, or start a project I can work on long term. I find little daily interactions with others helps keep that loneliness at bay. Even if it's a brief exchange with another parent at a park..I take what I can get lol 🤷🏼‍♀️

How do you do it STAHMs?!??

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