How many of you really are happy in your relationship or marriage? No cheating involved or abuse?

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Lately ive come across so many toxic relationships and i have experienced 2 infidelities.. after the first one i still managed myself to put my trust on my second partner & loved him even more because I didn’t want to make the same mistes than in my first relationship, but he also cheated on me.. ive seen the men that are out there but those available around me seem just as untrust worthy, im losing hope im 27... first relationship i was engaged, second relationship he even asked me to move in with him to start a life with him... but both cheaters.. sometimes i wonder if im just good at getting them caught & other women just don’t ever find out.. im just trying to see if i have hope out there lol im so hurt rn..

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My husband and I have never had a single fight ever. If we disagree, we talk and compromise.  No abuse, nobody ever cheated. Things are good

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I met the love of my life a couple of months before I turned 29. I had a track record of a physically and verbally abusive boyfriend, 2 cheating ones, and a few extremely selfish ones  I just settled for in the hopes that they would change. The biggest difference when I met my husband were the changes I made in my own life. I decided to not even look for love. It was time for me to fall in love with myself and do things that I enjoyed doing. I had seen an episode on the Oprah Winfrey show, with Louise Hay as a guest, they spoke about a love list where you wrote down 100 things you look for in a partner and then just let the universe/God/the source or whatever you might call it, take the reigns. I did just that, I wrote my list, put it away, and then I started living my best life. I developed new hobbies, rediscovered old ones. I started to really understand who I was, what I deserved, the mistakes I had made in previous relationships, like giving too much of myself and never putting myself first, and the healing began. Instead of looking for a partner I became a person I was madly in love with. I healed from all of the previous relationship trauma, and when I met my  now husband, I was not only ready for a relationship, but I could clearly communicate and show how I needed and deserved to be loved for the first time in my life. Every relationship and every person is different, but sometimes, it is better to focus on yourself and your own growth in order to get to a place where you can have a healthy and solid relationship.

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Cheating is the end for me. No second chances here. I’d expect the same reaction from my partner. Why be with someone who clearly doesn’t respect you?
I’m happy to be in a relationship where I don’t have to wonder about him being faithful. I don’t have to wonder about him worrying about ME being faithful. We love and trust each other 100%. We have each other’s passwords and fingerprints stored on our phones so we can use them for internet or whatever but we never look through each other’s phones because there’s no need. He doesn’t need to report to me and I don’t need to report to him. Out of courtesy we let each other know if we’re going to be home late or if we’re going out with friends etc, but we don’t need “permission”. I couldn’t be with a person like that

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I was hurt over and over by abuse and cheating. I finally took a good hard look in the mirror and got into counseling. I have sexual abuse/trauma history, was codependent and had self-esteem and trust issues. I focused on healing and learning healthy boundaries. I learned how to choose healthy over my flawed instincts. God is also a big part of my life. I’m happily married now to a man who respects and adores me, with none of those issues.

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Every guy I dated before my husband cheated on me. My husband and I have been together almost 9 years and neither of us have cheated or abused the other. We aren’t perfect, but we love each other and are in a happy, safe relationship.

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After a very toxic relationship and loosing myself I have finally found an amazing guy. I love him to pieces and he is so supportive and understanding and caring. He knows what I've been through, he has been through the whole been cheated on before as well and we both are giving this relationship the best shot we can simply because we want to be happy. It has been tough just simply because I had to unlearn all my survival tactics from my previous relationship (I did give myself 6 months of healing before I began dating this guy). But he has also helped me in so many ways and I finally know what it means to be TRULY loved by someone and I'm beyond happy. Life isn't perfect but we work through it together.

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I've had so many bad relationships, I've dated multiple narcissists. Like I love narcissists, crazy guys & guys that abuse substances. 
My current relationship is very happy, but it's still a new relationship.

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Pretty much our one thing was that we wouldn't cheat on each other. We had both been cheated on in previous relationships and weren't willing to go through that again. Life isn't always easy, but we choose to be happy and enjoy the time we have together.

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Relationship 1:  engaged and he cheated
Relationship 2:  father of my daughter. He was abusive and left
Relationship 3:  engaged and he cheated and was toxic 
Relationship 4:  married for 10 years. Total 13.5 years   Cheated a lot. Gambling, sex and pot addict. Narcissist and very abusive. 
Relationship 5:  married no issues. We don’t fight. Together 18 months, married 10 weeks. He’s awesome

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I’m in a relationship, but honestly not that happy.

How many of you really are happy in your relationship or marriage? No cheating involved or abuse?

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