We had our son a little over a year ago via unplanned section from failed induction. He was very ill and the next few months all the way up til he passed away we were bombarded with people. All day every day. We had to keep visits at the specialty hospital strictly to weekends because it was nonstop.

I absolutely love both sides of my family, but I don’t feel like I had enough time to just adjust and heal and it made my recovery terrible. Honestly the whole pregnancy was that way. Including the day and a half I was in completely unsuccessful labor. Just people in and out of the room basically all day and hanging all over me. It drove me insane but I didn’t wanna spoil their excitement and ask everyone to leave.

We recently found out I’m expecting again and we’re likely going to opt for the repeat section instead of trying for a vbac.

I’m thinking that we’ll let people visit the night before the surgery until about 8 or 9. Then no visitors until after I’m back in the recovery room with the baby. I don’t want to have to worry about my hubby trying to fend everyone off until I’m back in the room to hold the baby for the first time. And I definitely don’t want people packed in that tiny recovery room while I’m being uncovered every 15minutes to check bleeding and massage my stomach.

I know I’m going through with it. It’s the wording that gets me. How do I say it so it doesn’t sound rude. Feelings will be hurt either way, but I’d still like to not look like an asshole in the situation for needing some space.