Long ass birth story - part 5/5

I found out afterwards what had happened..

My mum/misters point of view:

I came to the point of crowning but Delta was suffering with Shoulder Dystocia which can result in "turtle necking" this happened 3 times, I finally managed to get past the point of crowning and get her head out but she was stuck to say the least, this was when I had no contractions, luckily when I pushed her out it was just in time as on her exit she ended up pooing in me, the midwives had the resuscitation team on standby outside the room, my mum said she wasn't breathing and was purple, they handed her down the line of midwives to the resuscitation team and then all gathered at the door, my mum truelly thought we'd lost her and my mister said he just felt dread, thankfully they managed to get her back which was when she cried, truelly honestly thankful!

I bled and filled 3 mats up my mister then thought he'd lost me (poor guy! It did effect him a fair bit) at this point but thankfully it was due to my placenta rupturing, they clamped it and gently tugged but the cord was close to breaking so they reclamped and managed to get it out, all in all a far cry from the water birth I wanted!

After everything calmed down a different midwife came in and took over, she said I would have to wait atleast half an hour for my epidural to wear off before I could shower, I explained that it didn't work (not knowing at this point that I was given a walking epidural on low dosage and at 90 minutes per top up without my knowledge or consent, even if they didn't need my consent being told would have been nice.) so I stood up and got myself a damn shower.

My little ones coming up 3 weeks now, weve tackled Jaundice, being stuck in the hospital due to a lack of pediatricians and had her Tongue tie snipped, had some awesome nights and some where I've sat and cried my eyes out, its definately a rollercoaster, there isn't a manual and sleep deprivation is SO real, I dropped some bath bombs and a thank you card off for the midwives but have since changed hospitals to a much better one, one that I feel confident with and have been amazing.

They're worth every second of it, I'm thankful to have the mister I have and a supportive mother that helps like she does, utterly blessed. I know being a first time mum is scary, I know you see alot of "trust your instinct/body" and still feel so unsure or confused but genuinely and honestly trust yourself you'll be suprised at just how strong you are and how in the moment you just do what you feel you need to do 💛🧡💙💚💜