Meddling mother

Let me start off by saying that I’m 19 years old. My mother doesn’t believe in giving me any privacy. She wants me to tell her every single detail of my life. Every single one. I’m not exaggerating. She goes through my things, she takes my debit card when I “spend too much” of MY own money, and she wants to be ridiculously informed of everything that happens in my relationship. Recently, my bf and I had a little problem which we resolved ourselves and things are fine now. My mom noticed that I took a cab home that night and has since been interrogating me as to what happened and why I took a cab if my bf drives. I told her that everything is fine but I don’t want to talk about what happened and she just keeps nagging me about it. At this point, I’m beyond annoyed. I don’t think I should have to tell her every single thing that happens and I shouldn’t be forced to talk about something I just don’t want to talk about. Am I wrong?

P.s even when I do share things with her (which is quite often), she accuses me of lying to her. Accuses me of turning my phone off so I won’t have to answer her calls. Accuses me of wanting to move out to get away from her. She needs help. Also, I’ll be out of college in less than 2 years. I’ll gladly move out once I’ve graduated, but that’s just not something I can afford at the moment. I live in NYC. The rent is crazy.

**** Update *****

She’s now giving me the silent treatment. Like always. There is SO MUCH more that goes on and it’s been happening for YEARS. All my toxic traits have been from her and the way she “raised” me. She also told me that I should be grateful because although I barely get any freedom, I have more than her mom ever allowed her to have. I loved my grandmother, but she was down right abusive. Physically and mentally. It sucks that my mom has passed it down.

She just said that I’ve changed a lot, too much actually, all because I have a new game downloaded on my phone and I seem to be “addicted” to it 🧐 coming from the same woman that can’t be alone. That sabotages my life because I’m all she has. That is on the phone 24/7. Even when she isn’t talking to anyone over the phone she has her headphones in.