Fiancé doesn’t like my family

Like the title says, my fiancé doesn’t like my family and pretty much wants nothing to do with them. My family is very religious and conservative and wasn’t a huge fan that I was dating someone who isn’t. I was raised that way but I’m not - I moved out as soon as I could to get away from all of it. We’ve been through some hard times with my family - my fiancé didn’t ask my dad before he proposed (but my dad had made it pretty clear that he and my mom didn’t approve and I had made it clear that I didn’t care that he wasn’t religious - I didn’t want a religious guy). So I don’t really blame him for not asking. They were super upset and every conversation ended up being a fight, so honestly I stopped talking to them for a few months. During that time we moved in together (more anger from my family) got pregnant, and then lost the pregnancy. It was a hard few months and it was too much to deal with my family on top of that.

This past summer I made a point to reconcile with them. It was difficult, but family is important and I know they had good intentions. I made it clear that these were my life choices and that I won’t tolerate them disrespecting my fiancé, and that they needed to accept our relationship.

The relationship with my family has been good and improving for the past 4 months or so and I’m happy. My family really is important, it was the situation that had been hurtful. However, my fiancé - though he’s encouraged me in the beginning to reconcile the relationship- doesn’t really want anything to do with my family. We live 4 miles away from them, yet he makes excuses for every family dinner we’re invited to. My parents know he’s making excuses too and I think they really want to move forward and have a good relationship with him too, but the ball really is in his court at this point.

We’re planning on having our own Christmas this year, but we were invited for thanksgiving. Just for the holidays I really want him to say yes, but I’m pretty sure he’s going to make another excuse.

He’s said before when we have kids he doesn’t want my parents to ever babysit them, he’d rather us pay someone. Than let them stay with their grandparents for a few hours. He tells me he thinks my family is weird all the time, but it’s family. I feel like that’s normal to an extent. Also, he’s seen them maybe 5 times in the past year and a half.

Am I expecting too much considering what happened, or should he at least try to have a good relationship with them, for my sake?