okay, so here’s a backstory : i got pregnant by my ex last year in february and gave birth to my princess 👑 on november 4th, 2018 .. we broke up in august last year because he cheated on me with MULTIPLE girls in our room so i left. we’re cordial now but he don’t support because he keeps losing his jobs and didn’t work all year. she’s in my care full time . i’ve bought everything she needed on my own before she was born and afterwards with a little gifts from my family . he has only sent $150 since she’s been born and his mom and brother helped me a few times but i’ve spent thousands on this little girl and i don’t even bring in that much already. i even have her set up in the best daycare i actually trust while i work..

now i need my fellow mommies/ladies opinion to make sure i’m not crazy. so i told myself before i gave birth that I wasn’t going to be a bitter person about us not being together or about his infidelity. I let him see her everyday for the first two months then i moved to upstate new york by my family so i could have a better support system. I let him and his family to come up and see my daughter in March for a weekend, then i brought her down to them for 2 weeks in June, 2 weeks in July and I needed help in august while i worked a bunch of overtime so they took her the whole month of august then for a weekend in October. I also didn’t mind splitting holidays with them then switching them each year but now there’s some issues that i will not allow from anyone . I told my child’s father that i needed to know what days they thought of for thanksgiving so i can tell the daycare since they were discussing driving to NC for the holiday which came to be Nov 26th to Dec 2nd, but i told him I needed her back by Dec 1st because she has a WIC appointment to be certified as a toddler now so we can change the package and i already reschedule it because we had a snow storm and my daughter had fell sick and had a 101.3 fever so i wasn’t taking her out . I couldn’t get any benefits this month because of it so i gotta wait til december now . then his mom texted me asking me to clarify my concern and this what she responded with

so of course , I was not gonna get into it with anyone about MY concerns on things that benefits MY CHILD that i’m taking care of .. that’s making me seem like you’re willing to risk me losing my benefits for my daughter of which you are NOT supplying for her.. I will not have that , you’re a grown woman talking to me like you’re a petty high schooler .

so in conclusion, i said to myself that i’ll give them til the 20th to get back to me and if they don’t then when they contact me for my address to come pick her up or just to finish their planning I will reply saying

“..unfortunately, you disregarded my concern as if that was an option when i would have liked to receive a response saying ;

“ i understand your concern and i’ll have her back by the 1st “ or “ i had plans to stay there until the 2nd, so i understand but i’ll get her another time “ ..

which I didn’t get in due time, therefore i made different plans for my daughter . maybe we can schedule another time . “

what do y’all think ? ..am i wrong or in the right ? because i don’t understand anyone who would risk not being able to see their child / grandchild because you gotta come back some hrs earlier than you planned