He called me frigid during sex

I haven't been interested in sex for over A year. It's honestly been a stressful year and I've been up with our daughter every single night - sex is the last thing on my mind. Well we've had sex a couple of times. I have this weird mindset of happily not having sex ever again, I don't want any kids and it has become a big fear of mine. I know I can't avoid having sex forever cos he has his needs and I would never expect him to settle with that.

I've always been shy. He's my only sex partner and the only time I'm ever really relaxed or adventurous in the bedroom is when I drink alcohol. I've felt pretty nervous, uncomfortable and self conscious everytime we've done it. I start acting weird like it's my first time again. When I'm on top its an epic fail. Honestly most of the time I'm not in mood - but I make the effort going that I'll get into it and I never do.

About two weeks ago I had the urge, bought condoms and the sex was alright. As usual I didn't really feel much, it gets to a point when I'm looking forward to it being over and pretty much not even bothered about not getting anything out of it. He makes noises, does the sexy talk and I don't know what's wrong with me but it doesn't happen for me. I used to explore and see what I liked many moons ago but honestly do not care for it.

I was ill a couple days ago and said I was off to bed. He started touching me and after a long while it felt okay. He said he was trying to understand what I liked, which is a first. He does foreplay most of the time, however never cares much about what I like. Anyway he wanted me to go on top (I'm still super nervous) and then he decides to try another position where my leg is basically pointing to the ceiling (we are sitting on a chair). After a while I said it was uncomfortable and after a couple seconds he stopped. He has a habit of doing this, I'll say something is uncomfortable and if it feels good to him he won't stop immediately. Well this time he says he always tries with me and I'm basically frigid - okay??

I said oh lovely what a way to make someone feel good and I started dressing myself. I was ready to go upstairs but somehow we ended up having sex again. I was still annoyed, I made some effort. He came and again I didn't feel anything.

This isn't a post about me not feeling anything or cumming. I know I would have to take time to find out what I like etc. Its just the fact I mention being uncomfortable and he doesn't stop or moans that I'm stiff as if I'm not already feeling like Crap the whole thing as it is.

It always feels one sided, he gets his and is happy and I'm not.

We've had some good times in the past (I was drunk or tipsy mostly) or so relaxed I didn't care. Since having our daughter it's not the same at all,mostly because of me.

Any advice?