Can’t even look at my husband and finding out he cheated

It’s been 3 days now since I found out my husband has been texting another woman and telling her how much he loves her and misses her. I also found saved videos on his phone of her masturbating that she sent him. He know I know because I threw his phone at him with on of the videos playing on it. But I haven’t spoken to him about it at all. I haven’t even talked to him in the 3 days since I’ve found out. I can’t even look at him. He hasnt tried talking to me either. I think we both know our marriage is over but we don’t know how to say it. I don’t think I will ever be able to look at him with out thinking about it, and I’d never be able to trust him again. But honestly I’m not even sad, guess I’m still too mad to be sad. I’m just dreading telling my friends and family that we are splitting, they all think so highly of my husband, so I know I’m going go to have to explain and I really don’t like talking about our personal stuff to others.