What the actual *edit*

Today, I got up and went to work. Typical Friday right! First weekend off in 3 months, I was excited. Until 1:52 pm when my phone went off... it was my hubby. He messaged to let me know he’d moved out... he left for work at 6 (like usual). Except he didn’t go to work. He went somewhere to wait... until the kids and I had left for the day so he could clean his things out of the house. First of all.. what the fuck? And secondly .. why?

Literally no explanation, no concern for the fact that I’m 8 weeks pregnant, at work; and going to have to explain to the kids later that he isn’t coming home ...

fast forward to me leaving work at 3 pm... I held it together. I didn’t cry, I did my job and got the fuck out of there. Until about half way home when everything hit me. He left. Just up and left. So of course I think the worst, maybe he’s been having and affair, maybe he’s found somebody knew.. I don’t know. But he wanted this baby. We’ve been through 3 losses this year just to get what that seems to be developing & growing... with a beautiful beaten heart. He cried when he seen the ultrasound. Like what the actual fuck.

So whatever I leave him be. He starts messaging about regretting his decision and feeling horrible for all the unnecessary stress. And I just can’t seem to forgive this. We have a happy life, 5 children (2 from his previous relationship) we don’t fight often, I’m the “bread winner” . I bring in more because he finances a vehicle and has to pay support... regardless what the fuck!

Anywho he’s extremely apologetic and I can’t seem to just let this go. Am I overreacting? And I in the wrong for feeling betrayed, disgusted and deeply hurt?

How would you react?

He claims he left because he struggles with me making more money and paying all the bills. He went to his mothers, and lied to her. Said we had “a little argument” and that he was just “taking a break”.

He didn’t know we were chatting about her hubby’s recent radiation treatments. So she asked “is everything okay” and I said “I’m not really sure” and she said “if you don’t mind.. what was the little argument about “ so I messaged him before responding and I said “I think it’s your place to explain to your mother what is going on. But this isn’t a “little argument” in fact, I was completely blindsided by your actions today. And despite your apologies, I have questions... sooo many questions”.

I responded to his mom and said “what little argument” and she said ___ said you guys had an argument today; and I know it’s not my place but I was just hoping things were okay”.

So being a bitch, I responded “we didnt have an argument. ____ decided to abandon work and clear his things out of the house today. Which was obviously a thought out plan because he waited before going to the house until the kids and I had gone to work/school”

She responds “🥺 pardon me”

Than he responds “didn’t need to get my mom involved “

I said “I didn’t, you went there and lied. I just brought the truth to light. You don’t get to be the victim here”.

Long story short his mother told him he made a huge mistake and said “I honestly hope you don’t bring him home. He deserves to lay in the bed he made for himself. If he can leave you today, without remorse, without a second thought, than he doesn’t deserve you, or those children”

I cried.. because she is right. But after years and children and marriage, I am devastated. I never seen this coming and now I look like a fool . Just yesterday he was saying “I wanna go on parental leave, I want the chance to be home with baby & raise my child from the day it’s born” blah blah blah... and then today. He’s gone.

And my head hurts from crying, my heart hurts, my children have sooo many questions .. and I’m just numb. 😭

Thank you to all those for support, understanding, and comforting words. It truly means the world to me right now 💖