So my husband and I reconnected with a high school friend (let's call him A) this summer. We became super close to him and his bf (let's call his bf T) and started spending a lot of time together.

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Fast forward to about 3 weeks ago they were getting kicked out of T's mom's house and had absolutely no where else to go. So they asked us if they could stay at our place so they can save enough money to get a nice apartment and not rush into some random place. We obviously say yes because we were on the same boat about 3 months ago but luckily we had family to stay with until we picked an apartment and we have an empty bedroom anyway. Also we never saw any reg flags. They always had everything clean and even took care of all the animals at T's mom's house. Mind you she has a mini zoo in there. So why not.

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So before they moved in we set some ground rules. Just the basics. Be respectful, keep noise down passed 10pm during the week because we have elderly neighbors, no loud banging (for when they were building furniture) passed 7pm. Simple.

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Off the bat they broke all of these rules. They broke my strainer and completely destroyed one of my pans with scratches, they had the tv blasting all night to the point you can hear it from the stairway on the opposite side of the building floor, built their furniture all night, and woke me up multiple times during the night with loud talking/laughing.

After a week I was over it and told my husband that he needs to tell them to go because if I do it, it won't be pretty and their shit will end up on the corner in trash bags even though I waddle around the house. He talked me into letting them stay a little longer to get more money because they don't have anywhere to go and he doesn't want them to end up on the street. He told me to think about how stressful it was for us in that situation and I gave in.

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Yesterday was my absolute breaking point.

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We had told them that we weren't going to be home Wednesday into late night Thursday because we were staying with family for Thanksgiving. All I asked was for them to make sure the cat had food/water, the heat was left on for her, and to lock the front door when they leave Thursday. Simple.

THE CAT BOWL WAS EMPTY!!! THE DOOR WAS LEFT UNLOCKED ALL DAY WITH NO ONE HOME!!! AND THE FUCKING HEAT WAS OFF!!!!

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I came home to a mess. My poor cat was shivering because it was freezing in my apartment. I was so pissed I sent them a long paragraph and told them that they need to be gone by Sunday because that's unacceptable. Not to mention they drank all the milk, ate all the cold cuts, drank all the juices in the house, finished 3 boxes of cereal, and even decided it was okay to open and drink half the juice that I need to help with nutrients since my baby is taking most of them from my body. They didn't give us a warning about any of it. A simple "hey we need ______." Would've been fine.

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HOW TF DO YOU GO THROUGH ALL OF THAT IN A FUCKING DAY?! I DON'T UNDERSTAND!!!!!! MY HUSBAND ARGUED WITH ME TO LET YOU STAY AFTER THE NOISE/BREAKING OUR STUFF AND YOU FUCK UP THIS BAD?! HOW DO YOU BREAK EVERY RULE POSSIBLE?! HOW DO YOU DO THAT TO SOMEONE'S HOME?! HOW INCONSIDERATE DO YOU HAVE TO FUCKING BE?! UGH!

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Okay I feel better after typing all of this and just have a quick question. Am I wrong for kicking them out?

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****UPDATE****

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So I basically had to kick them out through text because they were avoiding us. We could never get a time with both of them or keep them home long enough to have a conversation. So I made a group chat and dropped the bomb. We gave them until a few days before Christmas to figure things out and find someone else to stay with. I could've easily just said gtfo but I was being nice.

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Then A decided to say that they've been looking and don't like any places they see and they don't want some crappy small apartment, they want a house. They can't find a place that fast before the holidays. Blah. Blah. Blah. Bullshit excuse after bullshit excuse. I snapped and said "I understand that the time if year is rough because you want an extravagant Christmas in and extravagant house but bottom line is you gotta go. I was nice and gave you a few weeks but I wanted you gone since week one. It's been a month. So figure it out. You didn't respect rules so now you can't have time to look. Also my baby is due in 3 months. I need to nest."

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So far I haven't received an answer after I snapped. Maybe feelings were hurt. Oh well. Should've just taken it when I was being nice. 💁🏽‍♀️