Baby shower drama!

Rant warning!

My cousin who is 4 years older than me has always been my best friend. When I got pregnant after 4 years of trying, 3 miscarriages and having a successful

IVF

, I am FINALLY pregnant!! When I became pregnant my cousin asked if she could throw me a baby shower. I told her I would have to ask my mom and mother-n-law first to give them dibs if they want it. Neither of them minded if my cousin threw it so I told her she could, thinking this would be no stress for me but of course I was very wrong!!

She has yet to ask what I want for this shower. I let that go bc I’m just grateful to be having a baby in the first place. At this point I wouldn’t care if I didn’t have a shower at all. I’m just grateful to be pregnant.

But, it all started with her complaining she couldn’t afford this shower bc she also wants to have a “Harry Potter themed Christmas” which means buy all new Harry Potter themed decorations. Knowing she was struggling money wise I offered to cover the baby shower games and prizes for the games and also cupcakes for the guests. My mom was handling the catering for the food. And my mother-n-law ended up paying for the venue. I also helped with writing out who I wanted to invite and their addresses. Long story short we’re now 10 days away from the RSVP date and she told me a few days ago she hasn’t heard back from anyone yet. Bc of this I figured I’d send out texts asking my guests if they knew if they were going to be able to attend or not. I told them no rush. They still have time to decide. I just wanted to give a friendly reminder bc I know everyone’s been busy with the holidays.

After I did that my cousin blew up on me and told me that I overstepped and she’s sick of me overstepping when she gave me specific jobs to do like the games and cupcakes to “keep me busy”. I explained I wasn’t trying to overstep but most of my guests she doesn’t know and doesn’t have their contact information or have them on fb. After I said this to her she threw a complete fit telling me how I’m overstepping and how I’ve been nothing but rude and judgmental to her about the decorations. I asked her how bc when she showed me the decorations I said they were beautiful and super creative. I’m so confused but I’m sick of her blowing up at me and every time she’s mad at me she throws my baby shower in my face and tells me that I can throw it myself if I want.

That’s not what I want and my intentions were never to step on anyone’s toes but I don’t want her throwing this baby shower in my face anytime she’s mad at me!

I don’t see this friendship ending well. Any advice?