Am I wrong for being upset?

RANT TIME!!

Okay so I'm sorry this is about to be long.

So Sunday night my husband came home and went straight to the room. We live with my mom and she thought something was wrong so she went to check on him. Well she came out 10 mins later and said I need to take him to the hospital. We thought it was his appendix.

Fast forward to actually getting him admitted and in a room at about 4 am. We agreed to not give out the room number except to my dad because he was bringing us stuff like blankets and pillows. We didn't want to give it out to give us both time to sleep since we weren't able to go to bed until after the 1st doctor left. The nurse that came in after we got settled into the room said, as his wife, I will be getting a folder with my husband's medical Information and the room number and code.

Fast forward again to this morning. His grandma came to visit and I asked if she knew why I never got the folder and she told me she saw my mother in law go to a nurse that hadn't been to the room to know I was even there and got the folder from her which is illegal. I, his wife, am legally the person the doctors and nurses go to to give information on his health and answers when he cannot answer himself. I am beyond furious. We discovered on top of the infection he had that he has a life threatening heart disease. That folder she took had all that information in it for me to schedule his appointment with a cardiologist and the doctors name and info and so much more. That's only one of many things she did the whole time we were there. She was giving out his room number and hanging around super long. Like 8 am to 8 PM when neither me or my husband had gotten enough sleep. We had way too many people in the room at one point because she gave it out. She had a priest come in which neither me or my husband are religious and it was extremely uncomfortable. There was so much happening that my husband and I only got 6 or so hours of sleep total in the 3 days we were there.

Fast forward to a couple hours ago. He finally was discharged and we had about an hour until his prescription would be ready so he wanted to go over to his moms house and say bye before we made our way home. (We live about 45 mibs to an hour away from her house and the hospital but it was the closest hospital for those who might ask). She asked me and him to come with her to the garage to show us something and points to a heavy duty hook in the ceiling. We thought "oh maybe she wants to hang a chair or swing for the kids". NOPE not at all. She looked my husband dead in the eyes and told him she sits out in the garage alot and stares at it contemplating suicide. He literally was discharged from the hospital not even 30 mins prior. How do you even look at your kid and say something like that?? I instantly stopped her and told her do not talk about that in front of us. Its not right whatsoever. Ugh there's always a problem. She doesn't know her boundaries at all. I even tried to put my foot down today and explain that I don't want visitors till I'm ready (probably my last day) when I have my son. She got Ass hurt about it and told me shes gonna be there regardless of what I say and I told her no. I'm just over everything. She won't let me be a wife to my husband. I've come to the conclusion I'm not telling her when I go into labor at all. I won't be telling anyone about it till after I have him and am ready for people. Ugh I'm so sorry this was so long. It's just been a long few days and so much happened that I really needed to vent. I feel bad talking to my husband about it because it's his mom so thank you if you made it through this.

I don't know what to do and would really love some advice. We've been together for 2 years and married for a little over a month now and I will/can not handle dealing with this forever. It's too much stress. Any ladies out there with a mil like this that can help or give advice?