I need your help!

Me and my husband are currently arguing and I will be the first to say that our communication skills are horrible. Anytime we argue it turns into a pointless conversation because we are both super stubborn so when we try to explain ourselves and what frustrates us, it turns into a battle. I meed your best communication skills for two people that need to work on it before we kill each other. (We won't literally kill each other, just a figure of speech.)

Any advice!?