Is this Rude, Birth wishes to family

Preface: This is because my mom keeps sayings things to elude that she wants to be in the birthing room with me and my MIL keeps trying to bring my stepkids and whole family to the hospital! Both of which I have tried to explain are against my wishes and nobody is listening to me!

WHILE IN HOSPITAL

*No Visitors (NO exceptions, NO kids)

*No Social Media

*Pictures are NOT to be shared with ANYONE until we have discussed with whom

*Our Parents are to be informed of everything JOINTLY at the same time, (NO EXCEPTIONS)

*We Will discuss if and when MOM’s get updates

*We will discuss if Grandparents ONLY will come to the hospital after delivery, will be based on how the birth goes and if I am alert enough.

*NO-ONE is to show up at the hospital unannounced to ME

*IF you want to help, Husband will arrange who wants to check on the house, for Stepson or the pets if necessary. If we need someone to take stepson 2 home or drop Stepson 1 off.

GOING HOME

*Grandparents may visit with the Baby at our home, We will let you know if you may wait at the house for us once we leave the hospital

*Aunts and Uncles may request to see the baby, I request to please leave kids at home.

*Anyone who holds the baby will wash their hands

*Please refrain from smoking immediately before holding the baby

*Please do not visit if you or anyone in your home is sick

*Please do not bombard us with visit requests from people