Break up time?!?!

Question

When can you decide whether it's time to break up with your SO or keep trying??

I keep having thoughts of breaking up with my bf because just everything about our relationship is going bad. The sex is bad, I literally have to beg and then when we actually end up doing it, it only lasts like 5 minutes. I'm bored with him, nothing is exciting anymore. I don't feel as attracted to him as I used to. & just little things that he does annoy me SO bad now.

But at the same time I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, we've gone through so much together & I can't imagine my life without him now. He's like a best friend. The thought of us breaking up makes me cry and feel really bad but I'm starting to think its time. What do you guys think??? Sorry this post is so long I just need advice :/

Answer

Relationships are hard and all relationships will take work. There are going to be times you are unhappy, but fighting through those times and depending on your love for him is what matters. Only you know if you're truly ready to let go, but if you love this man and I mean truly love him and he's a GOOD man, make it work. I think you'll regret it if you don't. 
& try to change your mindset about him and the things that annoy you. Bring back the excitement! I hope you make the right decision for YOU! ☺️

Answer

Have you two talked about how each of you feels with the relationship? Where things are going from here? That seems like that may need to be your first step. If out of that conversation you guys realize you are at two separate points and want two totally different things then move on. As painful as that will be, however staying when you are thinking about leaving isn't fair to either of you. Not to him, because then you are giving him your all in the relationship, which he may see and is part of why he is backing off and is unsure. Then, not to you because of the emotions you are putting yourself through. It's not healthy. My biggest thing would be talk first. See where you both are, if it's at a point where you both need to just put a little more effort into each other to be happy and you both truly do not want to lose each other, then things will work out. If you both aren't and don't want to put forth the extra effort, then move on for both of your sakes. 
Hope this was helpful, best of luck to you!!!  Not sure if you are a praying kind of woman, but that would be my other advice if you are, pray and put it in God's hands, He will show you the way.

Answer

I felt the exact same way about my ex... It wasn't working, but I really, really wanted it to and so did he. We kept breaking up and starting up again over 6 years! But when I finally did move on and met someone else, it changed everything. I'm now married and can't possibly imagine my life if I had married the other one. But I understand that it is NOT easy to let go if you're not ready - you will know when you're ready, if that's what you choose to do.

A saying that helped my my decision was, "A relationship that doesn't have all the components is like a stool with two legs. You can make it work, but it's always going to be WORK."

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