Hate feeling this way

Sarah
So every now and then I tickle my other half and just joke about, but today he said one thing that really hurt my feelings...
Because he's ex police he basically said he could say I abuse him, have me arrested and get full custardy of the child (he counts tickling as abuse)
Also apparently I belittle him with my jokes and so that's his come back and then says... Don't dish out what you can't handle... So in his eyes he's done nothing wrong and I'm still the bad person :/ what do you think? Don't know where to turn anymore 😥