I moved to the US almost 10 years ago. I married an American boy and started my life without any of my extended family.

My first job was as a nanny. I met other nannies quiet often during library classes and at preschool drop offs. With some of them I even had playdates.

I'm very social and I love to make friends, real friends, so being alone was killing me.

The girls I met liked to go party (wild). I just like to go out to dance. I can have 1 or 2 drinks and I'm done, but they were always wasted and I had to make sure they got home. They started to being mean about it. With comments like "here comes the saint. She doesn't drink or knows how to party". I'm talking about girls between 25 and 33 years old. I walked away.

Strike 1.

Eventually I got my first formal job as an assistant teacher. The lead teacher in my classroom and I made great friends. We went out for dinner and talked about everything. The day came and I got pregnant with my first baby. I organized my own baby shower and invited my MIL and husband's cousins and aunts. The only non family member invited was my friend. She RSVP yes, and I placed her in my table to have someone closer to me.

The day came and she didn't show up. She texted me that she had to run an errand for her daughter and that's it. Never an explanation.

I was alone in my own baby shower. I barely knew my husband's family. I was very uncomfortable.

I believed "my friend" was never planning on coming since at work she didn't bring me a card or a present. Not even mentioned the event.

It was like a rock hit me. She acted like nothing. After a few weeks I left my job and never returned. I never talked to her again.

Strike 2.

I had my daughter, and my husband found that was vital for me to join a new mom's group. He thought I was heading to post partum depression at some point. After giving the fight I went.

It was actually great. I had so many concerns, and seeing that I wasn't alone gave me lots of strength.

We used to go out for dinner every month, and meet for playdates.

In this group I met a mom, who after 3 years ended up being like my sister. Our kids loved each other, and we spent every holiday together. I went above and beyond with anything she needed. We used to go to the supermarket together, take care of each other kids, go out for lunch, dinner, etc.

She lives 5 blocks away, so it was so easy.

One night I got a text "I'm pregnant". I was shocked, because we talked so many times about waiting to have more kids. She also needed <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> to conceive, so more shocking.

She added that she was 5 months pregnant. That was like a stabbing in the back. Why on earth did she hide that all this time? Some days I saw her 3 times a day. I even offered her to take care of her kid since she looked so tired.

After a few days I told her that she hurt me hiding something so important. She apologized. Since then everything was broken.

Her baby was born, and I showered her with presents. I tried to pamper her, so she could recover. She slowly stopped answering my texts, and one day she was gone. No more answers.

Why? I have no clue, but I really don't feel like asking her. I made an effort to talk and show my feelings when she hide her pregnancy from me.

Ps: she is perfectly fine. She keeps posting in the mom's group and meeting other moms for playdates.

Strike 3.

I'm so destroyed from this. I don't understand why people are like this. I'm not a bitch I swear. I invest all I have, all my feelings, and my time with my friends.

I wonder if the culture is something that they can't pass with me or what.

I gave up completely on bonding with other people. I take my daughter to playdates. They are over and that's it. I don't exchange numbers or making future plans. Why bother? 100% of people will not want a true friendship.