My mom controlling where I work?

So I am 20 and I live at home and my mom cannot work and we have a bunch of animals and an outrageous tax bill. So she told me I need to figure out how to support the animals and the property and family since my father quit paying support and every time I try to get a job she says I’m selling myself short and asks me what’s wrong with me. She said I cannot work I retail or as a waitress or at petsmart or Walmart or anything else I suggest but wants me to work at the local farm store for $11 an hour when I can get nearly double that elsewhere. She says I’m depressed and something is seriously wrong with me and I’m selling myself short in all aspects especially because of where I want to work and who I’m dating. Says I keep making excuses for him and he’s just no good and the relationship is unhealthy because he has no ambition and is depressed and it’s bleeding over to me but how is that possible if I’m not allowed to visit him?? I am at a loss. I know my mother cares about me but she has in the past forced me to break up with partners she didn’t think were right and isolating me from all friends until I was over them and I really like my current partner and I purposely introduced her and him slowly so she wouldn’t hate him and force us to break up but now she wants to “talk” to me about what’s “going on” and how my relationship is making me depressed when it’s not that at all but its her and my brother being overbearing and controlling.

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My mom lectured me for four hours after meeting my bf on how disrespectful and entitled he was and how he is literal trailer trash and totally a druggie.

She said he was disrespectful because he held my hand in public and in front of her and she said it was like a “slap in the face” to her that he “could do what he wanted with me “ and didn’t address her by her last name even though she introduced herself with her first name ?

He rode with us in our car because the place we went to eat was only 2 miles from his house and it was cold out. He had offered to walk and everything but she insisted on driving him. I know 100% for a fact he isn’t on drugs and I am not either and all she could do was say she failed me and I ruined our relationship and ask me if I tried drugs to go with someone like “THAT”

I told my boyfriend that she didn’t like him and had banned me from seeing him without kicking me out of the house and we decided to break up due to circumstances but try to stay friends until we get our shit together. I’m completely heartbroken and I don’t know if I can do it anymore