GET OUT

so me and my boyfriend have been together around 16 months, we’ve live around 1 hour apart and over the last year we’ve always had issues with him putting me second. Like, if I were at his he would leave me there alone to go do something with his brother or his mum or his sister would need a ride somewhere and I’d be left by myself, or he would be in mine and they would want a ride into town and he would leave me to go to do for 3/4 hours even though it is our time together. I understand closeness with family is important, he lives with them and sees them all of the time though and when we have our time it’s important for us to spend it together as a couple. So the last few weeks have been especially bad when he’s been here he’s left me for 5/6 hours or he’s just not come back from doing something with them. He even left me one day to go meet his brother in town centre of my city not the one they live in to meet for coffee (his brother only come through here to meet him???) even though they live a bedroom apart. His parents don’t like me because they think I take up too much of his time ironically. He is mid thirties so I have been trying to encourage him to find a place of his own, financially stable, just never moved out and won’t move in with me because his mum says he “cant”. Legit, that happened. So we had a chat about it last week, that he keeps double booking me and it’s not fair because I’d like to spend time as a couple and not be left for hours so he can run someone else around. Everyone in his household drives bar his mum, they could easily be driving her places. So that was that, then today he come over (last night he stayed) and he said to me “oh my mum wants me to drop her off at her friends but you can come if you want” and I’d reminded him of what we spoke of last week and he said “yeah but I’m asking if you want to come?” So asking if I’d like to sit in the car for an hours drive there, pick his mum up, drive to her friends then we drive back to my house. I explained how this isn’t really us spending quality time together as a couple and I’d rather we could do something the two of us that wasn’t driving for 3 hours straight. He started shouting at me and grunting, pacing the house, getting worked up saying how he was better off on his own and how he’s sick of this conversation, I told him that it only kept being brought up because he kept doing it and we argued back and forth for 10 minutes, he insisted I was being selfish and he was right for just trying to help everyone and I insisted that he knew we had this chat less than a week ago. Fast forward, I told him I was getting fed up of feeling like this all of the time, being second best and he put on a stupid mocking voice and repeated back to me “I’m fed up of feeling like this” and by this point I could not be bothered so I just looked straight at him and said “Get out.” Went into the bathroom and waited for him to leave, he stood at the door still insisting that he was right and trying to guilt trip me “I just went to do the right thing” “I’m no good for anybody” after telling me repeatedly he wanted to be ‘single’ (by himself). So I’m asking, did I over react? We’ve argued before but never to the point ive kicked him out. Is this an overreaction?