Am I ungrateful, or asking to much? 😫

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I recently had a baby and am engaged to my baby's father. I'm on maternity leave and he recently lost his job. Fortunately, he was able to find a new one pretty quick and I had money saved up that filled in the little gap. That being said, the new job is only part time and not bringing in AS much money. But, its paying our bills! My fiance still goes out after work and on days off to do side jobs. Wonderful right?.. The thing is, he doesn't come home until LATE. I'm talking 12 to 1 a.m. Now I understand he's working hard for us, but am I wrong for still thinking there is no reason for him to be out that late? Work should be at a reasonable time? He is a mechanic so he commutes to his customers when they are free. Do these people not have families? Even so, he sure does! I am just so unhappy with this but is it something I just need to suck up? I barely see him. He comes home and sleeps on the couch (I wake up with the baby throughout the night but stay in the room so he can get uninterrupted sleep) and usually only see him in the a.m when I am up with baby and he is heading out. What do I do? I feel just horrible to ask him NOT to work but how do I deal with this?

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That sounds really fishy to me if he is going to customers' homes and isn't getting home until midnight or later. That doesn't really add up at all.

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Yeah I was thinking you were overreacting until you said he’s a mechanic that stays out till 1am. Even if the job takes that long wouldn’t the customer be like.. uh okay sir come back tomorrow. That’s super weird but idk I’m not a mechanic lol

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He MIGHT get stuck at a house like once for that late...but if this is happening on a regular basis I doubt he’s actually at a “clients” house. My fiancé works on air conditioners/general maintenance and he does side work. He’s done it for a year and only once has he been working at someone’s house and been there till 10. So yeah...I highly doubt he’s actually “working” till 1am

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How could he possibly travel to customer’s homes when he may not know what specific tools he needs for the job? My hubs (and his brothers) is also a mechanic and customers come to them because of all the different tools needed for different vehicles and issues and it would be difficult for them to bring all  their tools. They’d have to bring their entire tool box in case. On the rare occasions they do go to someone’s home with a few tools, 75% of the time, they don’t have all of what they need and the vehicle gets hauled to the shop. Sounds like he is up to other things when he stays out that late doing “side work.”

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Umm something isn’t right about that

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It would be very difficult to work on cars in the dark without a garage or shop. But sometimes jobs can take a while. 
Think you should communicate you would like a date night - even if that’s one night he’s not working late. If you have push back or excuses I would be concerned about the work. If not, more likely to be legit.

Am I ungrateful, or asking to much? 😫

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