Abuse or nah? Please help me 😢

EDIT: Went to womens aid today. They've confirmed it's abuse and I plan on leaving tomorrow. Got to leave the dog as he wasn't mine. I'm heartbroken and so scared. He's due home in thirty mins and I'm just so fearful of making that step. Like, I still care for him...

Been with my now hubs for 2 almost three years. Been lots of red flags over the years. Like living with his ex when we first met (we had a few months break bc of this).

Wasn't comfortable and how could I be certain they'd split?

Anyway other things over the years happened, an old colleague of his messaging him boxing day telling him she loved him and always would etc. He blocked her and didn't address this for me. Weird.

Then was weird on Instagram w a girl. Commenting on her stuff saying she needs the same as him which is someone to hold his hand etc.

Fast forward a little and he's gotten increasingly snarky and rude. We were raised differently, I grew up quite disadvantaged and had a lot of trauma. He had trauma but was brought up better I guess.

He finds any excuse to make me feel shitty, telling me off for not cleaning and just generally finding ways to make me feel like shit. When I tell him please stop you're hurting my feelings, he'll flip it back on me and name a time I've made a mistake or upset him.

This man has called me fat, called me a c**t a couple of days back.

I said yesterday I feel quite scummy in comparison to you, in the middle of a store as he was faffing about plates - really not a big deal. He made another snide comment and said "perhaps you wouldn't feel that way if you did a little more cleaning".

This man has convinced me to throw my career away to sell nudes and webcam online, constantly nagging about money whether it be university funding for accommodation (not at uni yet), payment from men buying my material or my disability benefit.

I legit feel like I'm going crazy. Is this abuse or nah?