Why the f do I miss him so much?

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Today has been such a hard day for me. I left my cheating husband 3 weeks ago, and I have been doing really good trying to get my life in order. But today, I’m a mess. I miss talking to him so much, I miss going to sleep with him at night. Hell, I even miss our little arguments! My daughter has been whining all day asking for daddy, and I can’t even give her a real explanation why he’s not here. “He’s working” doesn’t cut it anymore, she just wants him, but he’s out hanging with his new girlfriend (not so new, apparently they’ve been together for more than a year 🤮) all the time. I’m just having a hard time, we’ve been married 8 years, and now all of it is gone. I hate him so much for what he did, but I also still love him. There’s not enough wine in the world to make me feel better today 😭

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You miss who you thought he was and what you envisioned for the future 💔 3 weeks out this is normal, especially with a child involved. It will get easier

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I’m sorry that is so heart breaking, tell him he still needs to come and see his daughter, just because he doesn’t want to be with you anymore doesn’t mean he can’t see his own daughter. Hope you at least have someone to share all of this with. Can’t imagine what you’re going through

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Therapy.

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Totally normal for you to feel how you do, it’s one of those situations where some days you’ll hate the ground he stands on, and those days are easier to get through, but there’ll be days where the hurt and sadness catch up with you and will knock you for six. 
I really recommend looking at doing some self work, meditation and mindfulness really helped me in a situation like this. Learn to love yourself more than he ever could because you deserve it and so does your daughter- she needs a strong mother who will help her through this confusing time. It’s good to cry and wallow sometimes  and allowing yourself time to be upset is healthy. But you can use the pain to help you move on, and when you come out the other side of this, however long it takes ‘cause it isn’t a quick fix, you’ll be a better, more confident, more self-assured woman for it. 
I think it would be worth explaining to your daughter that her dad and you are having some time apart. Depending on her age she may not understand but she knows you’re not being truthful and she won’t stop asking. No need for details, but let her know that you and her dad need some time away from each other right now, like she sometimes likes having time to play by herself. Tell her that wether you all live together or not, you both just want to be the best parents you can be for her because you both love her more than anything, and nothing will ever change that. I know it’s not easy to be unbiased and speak of her dad in a way that makes the situation fair for him too but he’s still her dad, and you giving him the green light to be a great dad and have regular contact and involvement will go a long way with her in the future, if nothing else. 
Be patient with yourself, you can’t force healing 🖤

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Im so sorry you're going through this. It'll hit you in waves until one day it just doesn't anymore. He needs to step up and be there for his daughter tho, even if he was a skanky shit bag with you.

Why the f do I miss him so much?

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