Honoring my deceased brother in law...

My husband's brother and best friend passed away in April at the age of 33. Obviously the whole family was wrecked, especially my husband as they were extremely close.

My husband still can't talk about him and is having a really hard time coping with the loss. I briefly brought up the possibilty of using his brother's name Brian as a middle name for our baby boy. A few months ago I said, "Would you ever consider Brian as a middle name?" His immediate reaction was "No." He got a upset and dropped the topic.

We still still don't have a middle name. My question is...should I bring it up again? I don't want him to make a rash decision because it is still so fresh and raw. But I also don't want him to be sad every time he looks at his child. The other thing is that his brother died of a drug overdose...so my husband may not want to put that on his son.

What are your thoughts? And.....now I'm crying.

Should I bring it up again or drop it?