Since becoming pregnant at 19, I moved back in with my parents who offered. At the time I was living states away with no real support. It was very clear, my children’s father wasn’t going to be much help. Since then I have met my long term boyfriend and he has stepped up as a father figure to my kids. My mom was a nanny before I had my kids and offered to be a full time baby sitter/ nanny to them while I went to school and worked. Because my boyfriends job keeps him away for long periods of time he’s only around every other long weekend. So about 8 days a month. Those 8 days we are his focus. This has been for a few years. Recently he was offered a great job across the country. Normal hours and days, weekends off, double his salary. We’ve always wanted a big wedding but now we think a house, cars, living comfortable etc is more important. After the school year is over for my kids, we plan to move. We decided I wouldn’t work until the kids were in kindergarten and had a full time school schedule. Before the move we were gonna have a quick court house wedding. My mom thinks it’s unfair to take the kids from all they have ever known. Living w my parents, etc. My mom essentially has been the 2nd biggest caretaker of them since day one. I understand where she’s coming from, I really do. She thinks I should leave them with her for the summer and then get them before they start school. I think that’s unfair because it’s going to be too many changes at once. I even told my mom after this first year I would gladly send them for a month in the summer or bring them to visit school breaks. And they are welcome WHENEVER. My parents have the money to travel so that’s not an issue. Am I wrong for moving my kids?