I didn't really get a baby shower with my first pregnancy.

People brought me a few gifts during Thanksgiving, but it wasn't actually a "shower" or anything special. Just, "Here you go! We picked up a few things off your registry!" With my bfs family. My family and friends were not involved so this time around, I kind of want an ACTUAL shower.

We have a majority of baby items, but I just want to celebrate with good food and some pampering for my close friends and relatives.

Is it weird to plan it myself? My family doesn't understand why I want a "second shower" and when I try to explain it, people say it sounds selfish.

Anyone else done something similar?