Am I wrong for telling him to un friend them?

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So my boyfriend of 8 years was showing me something on his phone. His game started so he gave me his phone. After I saw the video I scrolled and I saw a girl posted a video of her friends hanging out. I never saw this girl before so me being nosey, I clicked on her profile and the first thing I see on her Facebook page is a picture of her in her bra and underwear posing all sexy.
I see in her bio he works with this girl and my heart starts racing. Last year I caught one of his female coworkers posting a picture of herself in a lace bra and underwear (you could basically see her nipples) on her snapchat story. I got upset e because I am not okay with him seeing his coworkers in intimate clothing. A few months ago he was showing me a video on Snapchat and then next story was another female coworker in a lace top with her big boobs popping out and she was with her manager at a bar. I didn’t like that either. I told him it made me uncomfortable and he immediately took them off and didn’t re-add them except for the girl that took a picture with their manager because she came up to him at work and asked him why they weren’t friends. He re-added her and I got upset and so he took her off and told me he wouldn’t add her again.
I’m just confused. He said he just adds them and he can’t control what they post. When I asked him about the most recent girl he said he just added her and didn’t go to her profile but i doubt that. When his male coworkers have added him, he’s gone to their pages so why wouldn’t he with his female coworkers? Am I wrong for telling him to un add them because it makes me feel uncomfortable? Idc if he watches porn or follows hot girls on Twitter but coworkers who you see almost everyday and talk to? I don’t want my bf knowing what they look like without clothes. He got kind of upset and told me that he’s just going to stop adding his female coworkers all together cause he always ends up looking like the bad guy. I told him that idc if he adds coworkers just not ones that post pictures in their bra and underwear. What do you guys think?

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No, and he shouldn’t care what they think when he deletes them.

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I don’t think you’re wrong. Personally I don’t believe in adding coworkers in social media. Reason 1 is obviously something like this and reason 2 being I don’t want my coworkers all in my business. And I know I’m going to sound like the bad guy but yes he shouldn’t add his female coworkers anymore because his past experiences always end up with thirst traps and you feeling uncomfortable. You’re not saying that he can’t talk to them outside of work ( at least I don’t think so), you just don’t want him looking at the almost nude bodies. If they want to talk, they can text through regular iMessage. There is no reason why a coworker would be so adamant about her taken male coworker unfollowing her thirst trappy account unless she wanted him to see her dressed like that.

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Your not wrong for feeling uncomfortable. But you cannot tell someone who they can and cannot have on their facebook. I personally think it's a little shady he hasn't deleted them himself. But he probably likes seeing them pop up on his feed.  Sorry to be so blunt. It makes me cringe to write it.

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Tbh I think it’s fine to have coworkers on social media. We all add eachother at my work and mostly everyone is in a relationship but nothing is going on and we only chat in person.
You spend so much time with your coworkers everyday and they often become your friends and people to vent to and have a laugh with. 
I would only have a problem if they are just sending it to my partner and if they talk a lot.

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Im glad he’s considering your feeling but i also feel like you need to Stop putting your insecurities on your SO.

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In this situation, I don’t think you’re wrong, but I don’t necessarily think he was doing anything wrong either. 
I don’t care if my boyfriend follows random models who post sexy photos in lingerie and bikinis because he would never meet them. I don’t care if my boyfriend follows females we know. I would have an issue with him following a woman we know if she posts nothing but lingerie and her overexposed body. In that case, I would tell him I was uncomfortable and he’d delete them from his profile, unless he already deleted them beforehand. He’s quite the gentleman. 😊

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F no! I get heated when my husband adds girls who post provocative pictures online. Especially a coworker. I don't have any coworkers on my socials! Plus he shouldn't gaf what they think when he unfriends them. This is wrong on so many levels! I would be highly uncomfortable if my husband knew what coworkers had underneath their clothes.

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Oki I get most of you are saying she shouldn’t let put her I securities on her SO, but it’s kind of fucked up that he re adds these girls or is allowing her to feel insecure. He could work with her on her insecurities instead of letting her see these women who should have some respect of their relationship. That being said what I cannot stress enough is that insecurities hurt and are not easy to get over and it takes the help of her partner to finally be able to get over them.

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I’ll be blunt and honest with you, I do t think it’s up to you to decide who he should be friends with and who he shouldn’t, he is in no way responsible for whatever other people post on their social media, and whatever that is doesn’t mean he’s less honest or truthful to you, that’s just your insecurities playing up with you

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No your not wrong these women are just urning for attention and your right your guy shouldn't see them without clothes, he should have no problem unfriending/ unfollowing them. They seem trashy!

Am I wrong for telling him to un friend them?

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