I’ve been married for a year and my husband just told me today he is HIV Positive. Last month was our one year anniversary. He said in One year we will start TTC. It’s a month after our anniversary and the last two days We started BD because I’m supposed to ovulate between yesterday and today and I was telling him we needed to get busy. I was making cute reference to say later today we need to baby dance. This is the first time and only time we’ve had unprotected sex. My husband sat me down and told me his truth. I wasn’t told prior to these two days of TTC that he was HIV positive. I was told the morning of the third day. I’ve been in and out of crying. I took a HIV test before getting married. I also had one donbe for my annual check up “it was negative in December”. “We always used condoms,”until know. I’m in fear at the emergency room. I told him surely there’s was a better way he could’ve told me. I told him I was his best friend. I asked him why would he take away my choice???i understand someone took away his choice but he should’ve talked to me. If he loved me why would he do this I asked??? I understand it is hard to get into and be in relationship and possibly get married being HIV positive but I’m out words. I can’t openly discuss anything except with him. My mother passed in 2018. Who am I supposed to talk to it can’t be just him??? Nothing has prepared me for this. I should’ve followed up after his appointment before we got married this is to much for me. He should’ve told me so I can make a choice. I love my husband. He should’ve trusted me. It’s stupid to take the power of choice away from people especially the ones you love let people make there own decisions without being forced. He should’ve allowed me to make my own decision. My own choice. We had other ways to conceive.Update *** I went to the emergency room Im on the PEP which stands for post-exposure prophylaxis. It means taking antiretroviral medicines (ART) after being potentially exposed to HIV to prevent becoming infected. PEP must be started within 72 hours after a exposure. They emergency room didn’t test me for HIV I thought that was weird. They gave me anxiety meds because my blood pressure was high. However I did go to a clinic the people at the clinic was so supportive and informative. I was tested and I am HIV negative as of today. I will be on the Antiviral medication for 30 days and then retested. Update #2 I’m not confused I was in shock. I’m not angry my heart hurts. I feel betrayed. I appreciate the advice everyone is giving me. However assuming someone is HIV positive because they are gay or on the down low please educate yourself there are many of ways exposure can happen. Can we just concentrate on being educated and having self awareness and me having supportive people like yourselves sharing your feelings on my situation. I’m not out the woods yet. Hopefully I remain HIV negative but I shared my shock and I’m sharing my thoughts and my story because you never know if someone has a similar situation and no one really knows anyone intentions and not everyone has the same moral and values or decency to just be truthful. My advice is to get tested for HIV and ask the hard question of your partner. I really appreciate the support given on this thread I hope moving forward I will continue to be HIV negative in the future. I will keep everyone Updated as time goes on.