Who initiates sex more frequently?

I literally asked my husband after he turned me down AGAIN (while I was straddling him and kissing him) when the last time HE initiated sex was. Because i couldn’t remember. And neither could he. Not only that, he turns me down 90% of the time and makes me feel ridiculous and like such an inconvenience for being horny ever.

I have tried lingerie, toys, massages, etc. I’m still just an inconvenience for wanting to have sex.

It’s so frustrating and I’m at such a loss 😔