My husband is struggling so hard with this. By the time he’s home from work he will sleep on the couch from 5-8 and that leaves me doing the bedtime routine alone with the kids and then come 9 pm he wakes up and showers and eats and then goes to sleep. It’s taking a huge toll on our marriage because I am getting resentful. I know the military comes first I knew that when he signed up. So please don’t tell me that because that obviously doesn’t help me and I already know that but this is just ridiculous. He’s so tired that it takes Saturday and Sunday if he has those days off to recuperate. So that means no fun family activities with dad. He’s just glued to the couch and he’s miserable. I get the military sucks and it’s hard but I listen to him when he vents and I try to support him and I do everything else so he doesn’t have to. He literally works and comes home and helps me with the kids baths and that’s it. I don’t even have a husband anymore it feels like. I encourage him to talk to a therapist maybe but he doesn’t want to and just says that it’s the military and once he’s out it’ll get better but idk how much longer I can put up with. We’re both deeply unhappy. Is this normal or is my husband just struggling extra hard? What do I do? We literally only have sex a couple times a week and that’s it. I get nothing else from him. I’d prefer quality time over sex.