For the past five nights my boyfriend and friends have been getting shit faced drunk. Its this party thing my college puts on for a week, so it’s “normal”. However the past two weeks we haven’t been able to spend time together because we have been busy with school, work, etc. On the fifth night I texted him at 9pm asking if he could come home a little earlier than the past 4 nights( which were 4 am) so we could spend time together. Didn’t hear back at all, which I thought maybe he didn’t have his phone on or the party and shit is starting. Mind you that this was the only night of the week I wasn’t stressed about school work and an internship I’m in the process of interviewing for, so I really wanted to spend time with him but I was too tired and didn’t feel like being around drunk people so going to the party wasn’t an option. I go to sleep pretty upset (sad) because I want to spend time with him. I go to sleep and wake up at one am randomly. To go back to sleep I go on my phone and only two minutes before my boyfriend posted a video on his Snapchat of him at the party. I start calling him and texting him, however he doesn’t answer. I decide to stay up until he decides to get home. At four am he comes through our front door, once again drunk. However the last four nights I wasn’t awake when he came home. I ask him why he didn’t answer his phone at 9 and at 1, and he literally started saying, “baby I missed you” and all that type of shit. I once again ask him. However he tells me we should have some fun (sex). Once again I asked him and he told me I was being a party pooper which really angered me. I told him he should have came home earlier than if he wanted to sleep with me and I wasn’t sleeping with him when he is drunk. He then angrily accused me of having him choose sex with me or his friends. Which I didn’t... he then goes on this whole rampage that I don’t want him to hang out with his friends and wants his life to be all about me and work. Which I don’t. I really got sick of his attitude so I left him in our living room and locked myself and fell asleep in our guest room. Next came the morning and again I was angry about what he did last night and had to go tutor someone. After my tutoring session he starts asking where I am at. I tell him I am busy, which I was. I still had to go to two classes and I work a shift at the restaurant. He tells me fine let’s text. I told him I didn’t want to text because that’s not how to deal with stuff. However he texts me anyway.

*have to copy and past text because when I try to screenshot no photos save

*B means bf

B- I don’t know why you’re so mad. I should be able to hang out with friends. It fucking annoys me when you get mad at me for doing this. My life can’t just be work and you.

Me-Sorry but you twisted the entire situation that happened yesterday. I did not say that you could’nt hang out with your friends once. I know your life can’t just be about me and work. I don’t want that for either of us. All I wanted was sometime that you can spend with me when you got back the past five nights. However you came drunk every night.

B-Okay... because I wanted some fun and take some stress off my life. I can drink if I want to, thats not your decision or choice.

Me- Are you serious? Omg. I did not say in the text message above you couldn’t drink. Once again you are twisting my fucking words. You came drunk everynight which meant we couldnt even talk or hang out. I would like to talk and hangout with my boyfriend for at least an hour because we havent had time due to work. I literally only asked if you could come home earlier and not get drunk for one of the five nights you were partying so we could spend time together.

B- Doesnt make it right for you to yell at me when I got back home. I didnt see your text, because I was having fun with people and getting drunk. Just seems like you have a problem with me and my friends.

Me- Wow. Didnt read your girlfriends text because I was with other people and getting drunk. Thanks for that. You know a lot of girls wouldnt deal with this shit and I have and seriously over it. God I let you party and get shitfaced and I’m the bad one for just wanting some fucking time with my boyfriend. Makes me feel great about myself when the boyfriend would rather get shitfaced than spend time together. Also since you keep twisting my fucking words. Not saying you can’t drink.

B- You’re over it?

Me- Yes I’m over it. You are getting pissed off at me for a simple want. Time with you because we are in a relationship. It seems like I am the only one putting effort in this relationship. Im trying to make time for us because we are so busy but you don’t want to. Makes me feel shitty

B- Spent five nights without you... seems needy.

Me- I.. just can’t with you. We haven’t spent time together for nearly three weeks. You coming to bed and asking me for a bj right when I get back from work is not “time together”. With no interaction during the day, afternoon, or even at night. The fact you think it’s five nights really shows how you view me and our relationship. I’m done talking to you about this because you are acting like a child. Talk to me when you arent being an ass and at least have some care about me and my feelings.