My boyfriend is currently deployed and doesn’t get home until July. I graduate college in May. we have been together for 3 years and it has all been long distance due to his military life. I will have a degree in criminal justice and want to work as a probation officer for two years before starting a family. My boyfriend however wants to get married and start a family right away and is also telling me a woman doesn’t need to be in the environment a probation officer does because I could get hurt. I told him I’ve worked hard for my degree and love it and if he wants kids desperately now that he can be a stay at home dad for a few years. He refused and said biblically the woman takes care of the kids and the man is the head of the house. He said by the time he is 25 he wants 1-2 kids (we are both 21, turning 22 this year). I desperately want kids too but don’t feel like I need them this minute. Maybe start having kids when I am 25? I also don’t want kids right away because I want US time. Time to spend together and focus on each other since we have been long distance. I have a feeling he is going to leave me if I don’t agree to settle down with him. The main reason being my job, he said he won’t support be being in a probation/ parole officer field. I love this man with my entire heart and I don’t know whether to stand my ground and work or not because I feel like I will suffer deeply if I lose him. What would you do?

Edit: thank you guys so much for the advice. To the person that said that her husband said it was a toxic relationship I’m very thankful for that. I was kind of wondering what other men would think and if they would lean more towards my boyfriends side or side more with me. Y’all have helped so much, as they say: love is blinding.