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I could've written this myself 😂 omg my in laws (mostly MIL) is a piece of work..The only thing that truly helped was my husband finally stepping up to his mom and telling her to stop. For a long time he was scared to step up to her because he loves her so much he didn't want to hurt her feelings. I get that...buttt I have feelings, too. So I had a big talk with him once about how he needs to start standing up for me when she tears me down. He's done it ever since, and it's really made things a hell of a lot more pleasant for everyone. Your husband NEEDS to stand up to his mom for you. This might be the only way it'll stop. Good luck, I know how shitty in laws can be. Lol
In laws really are getting on my nerve
My in laws never wanted me and eventually after so many obsticles my now husband and I got married and they just had to deal with it.
They still arent a fan of me but keep it under wraps and are fake nice. Its not like i was a huge fan of them either... anyway here I am still with my husband 5 years later and they are still all up in my grill.
Everything related to my daughter they think they can have a say. She is slightly constipated and I was just saying to her when we went over the other day (we go over once every week, husbands choice not mine otherwise i would go once a fortnight) mind you they only live around the corner!!!🤬 anyway back to the constipation part... she starts telling me what i should and shouldnt feed my little one like i dont know... when i was there i gave my little one some avocado (not like she has it every day) and she starts saying maybe you shouldnt give her avocado because it might be too hard on her from the fats it contains. She is very old school and makes so much fatty foods yet here she is telling me AVOCADO is bad for my child. I try to explain what fats it has and that they are actual good and she just fkn ignores me.
Moral of the story i can say so many things and these people just dont take me seriously when it comes to my choices with my daughter. I talk and then talk over me or just disregard anything i say. My husband is extremely attached to his parents so he literally does not say anything to them and im left to deal with it on my own.
I dont mind people giving their opinion but when its a constant thing it starts to piss me off because im sick of them trying to control how and what my daughter consumes, what toys she should play with, how she should sleep and what not.
They also make remarks when holding my daughter ... like “oh look she (as in my daughter) isnt even searching for her mum”. Which makes me so upset because yes my daughter isnt super attached to me unless she really needs me and hearing them say things like that hurts me as it makes me feel like im failing in raising my daughter.
Honestly i dont know what to do, pretty over them.
Just wanted to vent, sorry for the long post.
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Be
Sounds like my situation too. I had to ask my husband why his moms feelings matter and mine don’t. I also had it out with his mom and basically said if your name isn’t on my daughter’s birth certificate you have no say. I also told her after a month of not seeing us she is only allowed around my daughter if I’m there until o see her respecting me as the mother. I feel like some MILs don’t get it until you are mean and put them in their place.
I don't know about you but when my baby isn't searching for me while someone else has her, I feel like I can catch a break and am happy about it. If they make stupid remarks, be fiasty and make a smart ass comment. About the food and toys, clearly state that you are the childs mother and will decide what is best. Be firm, if you let it slide or ignore they'll continue to be disrespectful
Be
Gets* not hits
Be
Can play all day Christmas with it and if his mom still hits the same our daughter will already have it. Lol
Be
Mine wouldn’t listen about toys for Christmas and doesn’t care if we want to get her something she buys it anyways. Since it was our first Christmas I started a new tradition to do a relaxed brunch on he 26 just us and his parents to do presents without extended family. She took the bait and saw it as her own Christmas time with baby but really we started it so we can get what we want and our daughter cam
Set boundaries. Talk to hubby and explain that it is not okay for them to say negative things, put you down, act like your parenting is bad, etc. That he needs to help support both baby and you. If they can’t stop their behavior then I would stop taking baby over there. And yes I have in laws just like that. My husband supports me though - it took serious counseling to have him see that he had Rose Colored Glasses on and then he apologized and said it was a toxic relationship. We now only see them every 2-3 weeks for like 2 hours at a time. But I told his mother... keep your opinions to yourself! And if you can’t... don’t let the door hit your ass on the way out. I will not tolerate another person in our personal relationship or that of my child’s. Take it or leave it. She knew I meant business and has kept her trap shut for the most part. *Keep in kind this is a rather serious case of narcissism- where her behavior is so radical it is toxic. She tried to cancel our wedding, started a fight with guests at our wedding, accused my mother and other relatives of theft at my bridal shower, started a fight with my mother in the kitchen of my baby shower... so when we called her out on it in front of her husband she knew she couldn’t get away with the behavior anymore.
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