I have been married to my husband for 16 years and we have two precious children. My husband is controlling, verbally abusive and I just shiver every time he comes near me.

I have to serve him dinner like a child “I’m in now can I have my dinner” well of course you can it’s in the pots on the bench and of course his reply is “yeah so what are you waiting for” then I must serve him coffee too I literally have no choice otherwise it’s world war 3 and the kids are listening to this bullshit, it upsets them, they have made comments like mum please don’t divorce dad, you and dad can’t break up.

I used to happily give him dinner and rush home after school pick up to have his coffee ready for him for when he returned home from work but that was before I was working, now I’m working and he still expects the same routine. He is ethnic and I mean old school ethnic, the woman inside and the man outside mentality, so this also puts a strain on our relationship. I am so miserable but I can’t leave because I have no money no accommodation and most importantly it would ruin my children. I hate being stuck, I feel like I’m slowly withering away. Every move I make is monitored. I really don’t want to live anymore but my kids are the only thing keeping me going.

I would really appreciate some advise or someone to tell me to snap out of it, your husband is normal it’s you that is the problem.