He is 9. He was diagnosed with autism, but I’m not sure. My sister had four different assessments done because at first no one would give him that dx. He is a brat, and it has nothing to do with autism.

He is always yelling, being violent, throwing tantrums, running away, etc. he lies also.

I am around my family all of the time, so I have to engage with him constantly. I do not like being around him though and he gets on my nerves. I know I sound terrible. I try to be nice. I think I am mostly. I am a therapist and don’t see children, but i did work with autistic children for a while and have professional opinions. My sister lets him do whatever he wants and doesn’t discipline or punish him, even though the psychiatrist and psychologist have both told her to do so. For example, after a major fit in which a crisis team was called to the home she gave him a cookie cause he asked for one and didn’t want dinner.

I don’t know what to do and how to get over wanting to tell my sister how to control her child. It’s her child, not mine, but it effects me and my son when we are around. But I am always griping about how she parents him. There is no way we can distance ourselves without being away from everyone else in the family. My grandma and dad also feel that way about him, and struggle with their feelings. He isn’t a good/fun kid to be around.