Was just told we only have a 3% chance of conceiving naturally

I feel like all of the air has been pulled out of my lungs. We just left our first appointment with an RE after 2 years of TTC. We were told that we are part of the unlucky 15% of people who are diagnosed with unexplained infertility. We are both 31 and have had every test run on us that you could imagine. All of them have come back normal. I don’t have PCOS, my cycles are extremely regular, I ovulate on my own every month, my thyroid is perfect, my tubes are open, I’m not overweight, my AMH/FSH are great, my husband’s sperm is good. There is literally no indication or cause for why we can’t get pregnant. I have a 9 year old from a previous relationship and my husband and I have gotten pregnant twice in 2 years but we miscarried the first and the 2nd was ectopic. He said that the odds for conceiving for anyone under the age of 35 that has been trying for less than one year is 20-25% each month. Once you try for over one year that drops to 3%. This is naturally with no medical assistance or intervention.

3%.

I wanted to vomit when he said it.

We’re in the middle of our second medicated cycle (Femara/trigger/TI) with my OB and I was supposed to trigger today but he said no, that we were done with this protocol because it wasn’t going to do anything for me since I already have regular cycles with regular ovulation. So we won’t be triggering after all and will just time intercourse. He is wanting to move to a much more aggressive approach with more meds and more monitoring. It’s the last step before IUI and we only get 3-4 cycles of trying this protocol. This will apparently increase our odds to 20% per cycle.

I just feel so defeated. I cannot believe this is our reality. There is literally nothing medically wrong with us that is preventing pregnancy, yet it’s still not happening. I don’t know what the point of this post is really. I guess just to get it off my chest since my husband and I are the only people that know what we’re going through. We have chosen to not share the details with our families as it just seems to add to the stress and disappointment.

My heart is broken. I don’t understand how any of this is possible or how this has become my life.