Manipulative mother rant 🙄

I’m so annoyed. I love my mom very much. But I’m getting so sick of the arguments. When I first joined the military she took it very personal. Always said I don’t love her and did it to get away from her (which isn’t true). She would cry and try to make me feel guilty. She didn’t understand that I wanted to do something bigger than myself and it was always a dream of mine. She went in with this for about a year after I joined but She finally accepted it a few years ago but now that I’m getting out and moving away with my husband she’s livid that I’m not moving back to the same state as her. I hate Arizona. It’s freaking hot there and I don’t like it. Why would I go and buy a home there and have kids there when I don’t like the area. I want to live in the woods with land and a dream home that I can live in forever. But I have this constant argument with her because she said I obviously don’t love her or my family or else I’d go and live in the same state as them. Every time I defend myself she tells me I’m doing dramatic and to grow up. It’s insane because she literally moved from California to Arizona away from her mom when she had kids and everything. Idk. I can’t not be apart of her life. I won’t cut her off but holy crap I’m at my wits end.