I wish the family members who decide to give shitty “advice” like this would realize that he’s not a dad to my siblings and me. And not because anyone holds him back, but because he chose alcohol over us a LONG time ago. That every interaction always has malicious intent behind it.

I wish they would realize how much shit he talks on everybody, even them, just to deflect off of his own issues. And how most of the ones who want to advocate for him are just a piece of his sick games. Whether it be for money or drama.

I wish they knew how much of what he says is lies so they won’t know how much of a piece of shit he is. So that he looks like the “victim”.

I wish they knew how many concussions he’s faked so that he has an excuse for when he’s asked why nothing he says makes sense. When really he’s over 4-5 times a legal alcohol limit.

I wish they knew just how much money he spent and days he took off work to drink, knowing they couldn’t afford it.

I wish they knew how much he takes advantage of his kids’ vulnerable state to get what he wants.

I wish they knew that he doesn’t just stop at humans, he also abuses animals too.

I wish they knew about the +$6,000 he stole from my brother and I when we were only 15-16.

I wish they were then when I got pregnant and my dad told other family that he planned on selling my dog behind my back. How when I miscarried, he made up lies about how the baby’s father wanted me to lose the baby anyways.

I wish they were there to see how he’s wrecked multiple cars because he chooses to drink and drive.

I wish they were to listen to him lie to CPS.

I wish they realized that even as kids, you can still be a victim to abuse. That even as a kid, victims can still have feelings.

I wish they knew that all sayings like this did just enabled toxicity. That it’s saying like these that abusers hide behind to get away with abusing people. That these sayings only take away from how a victim is feeling and that all should be forgiven bwcause of blood.