Am I a bad mom for leaving my baby in the NICU alone?

Question

We’re in a NICU an hour and a half away from home and my dr was concerned about my blood pressure and swelling after I had my daughter. 
Well he wants me to come back to get checked and I’ve been putting it off so I can stay with her in the NICU, but my health is becoming a concern and I really think I need to go back. 
That being said, my husband goes back to work tomorrow night and We only have one car. I would have to ride with him and stay the night at our own house an hour and a half away and then see the dr in the morning before being able to come back up with my daughter. 
I feel so terrible thinking about leaving her that I’m abandoning her by herself and I’m scared something will happen while I’m gone for that not even day or so. 
Is it a bad idea to leave her? Does that make me a bad mom

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I think your health is just as important. What if something happens to you? It’s soo hard leaving your baby. I get that! But she needs you around long term too. If that means a night and a few hours away to make sure you’re healthy too - it will be fine. She’s surrounded by nurses who will care for her. Being a good mom is not only taking care of your kids but making sure your kids also have a happy, healthy mom too.

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Think about this, if you don’t go and get that blood pressure thing checked out you may leave her forever. So letting the nurses take care of her for 1 day will be okay. She won’t even remember.

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Why can’t someone at the hospital with the NICU check you out?

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Many babies in the Nicu spend time without their parents, don’t feel guilty. Look after you!! She is being well cared for

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Go get checked out! Baby will be okay! My son was in the Nicu and there were a couple days when I couldn’t be there as much as I would have liked. You need to make sure you’re healthy! ❤️

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Bad moms don’t worry about whether or not they are a good mom. Clearly your heart is with your baby right now— and that is what counts. Please get taken care of ASAP by your doctor. Baby would want you to be taken care of, too. You’re their mom!!

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Go get checked you can care for baby better if your tip top shape. I went home at night while my twins were on the hospital they didn’t have a bed to sleep in my husband can’t sleep without me and we decided leave at 11 and come back at 7 was  the best option for is so I had the energy to do everything for them during the day. I’ve heard of people only being able to visit their babies like once a wk or less I can’t imagine but we have to do what we need you are definitely not a bad mom. And you can call while your gone my nurses didn’t care how many times I called I would wake up to pump and call and check on them

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You’re health is important too. If you get sick, you will have to be away from her even longer. look on the bright side, you may not be there with her, but she’s got a whole team of nurses who specifically choose this field because of their love for NICU babies. My son was in the NICU too, and I was in awe and have such an admiration for those nurses. Your baby will be good, she’s got loving caring nurses to take care of her, while you take care of you.

Am I a bad mom for leaving my baby in the NICU alone?

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