My son is driving me crazy

My son is almost 3 and I know what everyone will say, he’s 2 he’s going through terrible 2s or he’s almost 3 and kids are worse at 3. I’m aware.

I am wondering if this is normal when you have younger kids, say 3 and under or maybe I’m just not good being under pressure.

Lately my son has been speaking a lot better so he will ask me to do 2-3 things at a time. Like say we just walked through the door he’s asking for me to make him food, get him water, and always something else. If it’s something he can do I let him do it. Like he takes his own jacket and shoes off and saves them. The problem is I get overwhelmed because I have an infant as well and a dog that I have to take out to potty and by this time one kid is crying and I’ve lost my keys.

If I don’t acknowledge and get him what he wants he is in my ear repeating it until he gets it. I tell him “wait.” And he says ok mama and continues. It’s to the point where I tell him go play I’ll get it just so he isn’t at my feet begging me for it. It’s very stressful and annoying.

I don’t expect him to be quiet 24/7 but he really makes me lose my train of thought a lot and is always wanting something. Even if I’ve just finished what he asked for it’s something else. I tell him no or wait and I explain I have to do this or that so he says ok and in 1-2 mins he’s asking for it again.

He also hasn’t been listening when it comes to meal times. I make food and he refuses to eat it, so I send him to bed without food and when I’m done brushing his teeth he says he’s hungry. So I offer him dinner and he doesn’t want it. He wants junk.

This is a huge problem because when I ask him what he wants to eat he says idk or no to everything I offer. But if I offer chips, or junk he will perk up and say yes.

I used to feel bad about him skipping meals so I’d feed him what he wanted after him refusing food but I want to break that habit.

I just feel like it’s a power struggle between him and I and I am tired of him doing this to me. I am his mom and i am one person and he needs to learn a little patience. I know he’s only 2 going on 3 but I know it’s not impossible. He’s only just started doing this since we got displaced out of our home and are living in a hotel. Which adds way more stress on me.

What do I do here. Please help and be kind.