A rant 😓

I just found out I’m pregnant with my second, I have an 9 month old baby. (6 months corrected as she was premature) I’m 21 (some might say “too young” but I don’t want to hear about that) and I was perfectly happy about it, my partner was shocked but he’s now happy and excited. We feel like our little family will be complete once this one comes.

We told our parents over the weekend and I was quite excited (a little nervous) about telling them as I thought they’d be happy too. But no. They are definitely not happy at all, we’ve been called stupid by them all and one of them even said “what about your daughter” and saying we’ll miss out on her, and saying that this one will be premature too, and being really negative about it. Another said that I won’t cope with two. And saying that it’s too soon to have another one, even though they had waited 9 months after their first to have another.

If I can cope with going into premature birth at 26 weeks, having emergency c section, watching my baby fight for her life, live at the hospital for 3 months and move house at the same time, with little support, and a whole lot more crap thrown at me in between, I’m sure I would cope perfectly fine with two babies!

I honestly just feel like crap and I’m so upset about they’re reaction to it. And to be honest I’m not even excited anymore. We are in a stable happy relationship. We have a home together. The only thing (which is the only problem at the moment) is my partner is struggling to find a new job, but is trying hard to find a good job. Which I understand is a worry but we are absolutely fine at the moment, never missed a bill and not in dept at all. I am also trying to find ways to work from home and managing okay at the moment.

We have never asked them for help, never asked them for financial help either. We’ve done everything ourselves too so I really just don’t understand what their problem is.

I just feel looked down on, feel like a disappointment and just really upset.