(Long 😢) Boyfriend Avoiding Engagement?

Hey!

Y’all, I’m so confused and frustrated at my situation. Me and my boyfriend this year will celebrate 6 year together. Previously in our relationship about 2 years we have been super excited to get married and start out lives together and I’m still in that boat; however, I don’t think he is. We have been together since the last year in high school up until both got professional careers. I think 6 years as well as the path we both have lived together is amazing waters to test our strength for marriage and we have been through a lot.

We both, in the beginning of December, planned that we should get married October 31st as that is our anniversary. We were both were super excited.

In January, I asked if he had already talked to my mom about our near future plans (she will tell me, I so I can see if he does or not). It’s March and he still hasn’t. I ask him once and a while when will he but it gives this response, “why are you rushing me?” and gets angry. He gets a little annoyed when I bring up my excitement of getting married. It just feels like he is avoiding on getting engaged or he is hiding something. I don’t know why he hasn’t popped the question, he is in amazing shape financially. What pisses me off is he tells me he is going to make these big dollar purchases (like getting a new phone or new equipment for his car) but hasn’t popped the question. I up and asked him are you hiding something (usually honest) and he says no.

Now, his dad has a drinking problem that we have both invested so much time in calming down these years but he has literally devoted his life in protecting his father from it... I get you love and care him infinitely but it’s HIS choice. And that’s what I will always want him to do. But we have done everything we can to try and control his drinking situation. I shouldn’t be put in the back burner because of his fathers continuous ways. Because of this, he rarely sees me or spends the night. Really breaks my heart. I have no idea what to think?

Advice is appreciated 😩😢

Note: I don’t care about the ring. I just want him to tell me his commitment by proposing we take the next step. I’m 23 and he is 25. We both are mature. Just not sure if he is emotionally. Thanks guys for the advice thus far. 😊